A good read:This week I have really enjoyed: Real Sex: the naked truth about chastity by Lauren Winner. I honestly recommend everyone to read this book whether single or married. It is great on chastity but also great on a gospel understanding of married sex. The whole thing is great, but here is a quote that I think particulary pegs our false thinking.

"We are not sure whether bodies are good or bad: it follows that we are not sure whether sex is good or bad. The Christian view of bodies - that is, God's view of bodies - cannot be abstracted from the biblical account of creation. God created people with bodies, and God declared that they were good.... we've learned to reduce sex and everything else bodily, to something that has only utilitarian function."